Ask for help. Don’t go it alone!

As the UK is back in lockdown for another 6 weeks, everyone deals with it differently. People often say it’s lonely at the top. I used to think that too running my own business. Now I am so well supported that I have a tribe of people to reach out to.

Ask for help

I’ve made asking for help one of my critical go to tools.

Asking for help and offering support to others in the team is vulnerable and requires courage. Often people don’t ask for help because they don’t want to be a burden to others in the team, especially when everyone is busy. You may not ask because you don’t want to be seen as weak.

People want to help you. It makes them feel valued and provides an opportunity for you to be “in it together”. Asking for help is often essential when you are out of your comfort zone. It enables you to stretch further knowing you have support. In the first Covid 19 lockdown, people went out of their way to help each other. It gave them a sense of purpose and feeling of being valued.

Offer to help

Often people don’t offer help because they don’t want to interfere, don’t want to disempower you and don’t want to diminish you. Ask them, and most people will be willing to provide support.

If they say no, understand that there are reasons and it is unlikely to be a reflection of you. It’s more likely that they don’t know how to help or are unable for personal reasons. Don’t wait for someone to reach out to you. Seek help.

 Offer support to others in the team. Don’t let other people struggle. Offer support willingly and be ok if people refuse.

Don’t refuse help

People sometimes refuse because they want the challenge of succeeding alone. Accept it graciously and don’t take it personally. Don’t hold back watching people struggle for fear of rejection. Show them that you are willing to provide support if needed.

If you hold back from offering because you don’t want to disempower someone, and they hold back because they don’t want to be a nuisance, you can see how the lack of communication prevents you both working together and deepening the opportunity for a better relationship.

Don’t try and do everything on your own. These are challenging times personally and professionally for everyone. Find your support network who can ease the load. A problem shared is a problem halved.

Join my Team Strategy Session

If you’d like me to be on your support team and you lead a team yourself, join me on my next Team Strategy Session where we will explore the impact of uncertainty on your team and what you can do to align your team.